Evidently when Melanie started hooking up with Fred she didn’t tell him that she was married and living with her husband (me). I was angry when I learned how she had lied to me and I wanted to know whether Fred was the kind of asshole who likes fucking married women and destroying marriages or if he was just another of her innocent victims. So that’s when she said she didn’t tell him. But she has told him now, she says. If you see him please ask him if he knows how she lied to both him and her husband.
Here is why Melanie and I got divorced
Melanie had an abusive and dysfunctional family life growing up. I thought that I could provide a better one in which she could heal and grow, with no lies, no violence, no abuse, support, trust, and respect, you know, just the basics.
After 25 years of having her welfare as my first priority, helping her raise her child, standing firm during her MS and BKD hysterics, Melanie was dissatisfied. Instead of discussing this in honesty and mutual respect, she slammed me with a set of lies, which were contrary to her true intention and kept me under a false impression (and out of town for my health) for over 2 weeks while she moved on and hooked up with Fred. Clever huh? Except one doesn’t do that to someone they respect and care about. And a decent person would not do it to anyone at all. Of course, when one is lied to like this, and finds out, one has to reevaluate everything. It’s sad, but I now believe Melanie had been lying and manipulating since the beginning of our relationship. It’s ironic too, because Melanie always said she admired the respectful relationship I had with my first wife, since none of her relationships had ever ended that way.